Like many families today, I have examined the issue of the family bed. I have found for many families, having your child or children sleep in the same bed as the parent or parents has its advantages and disadvantages.

While a baby is very young, during infancy, co-sleeping is very convenient for feeding schedules.

It has recently been noted that bedding with your infant may prevent SIDS (sudden infant death syndrome).

For a mother who delivered by cesarean or a breast-feeding mother, the advantages are clear.

On the down side, there have been incidences of parents actually smothering their infant while sleeping. Although these incidences are few and usually associated with heavy drinking (alcohol) or strong prescription medication use, it is important to be aware of this danger.

Another danger for infants are the blankets and bedding in an adult bed. There is the chance that the comforter, blankets or pillows could smother an infant while in the family bed. Perhaps a better idea would be a bassinet next to your bed.

A toddler who becomes accustomed to bedding down with mother and father has been known to refuse sleep when placed in his own bed or crib. This may also interfere with naptimes.

The message is clear that if you are going to co-sleep with an infant, introduce the baby to his crib by 6 months of age.

Another frustration that occurs in the family bed is the most obvious one. The parents sex life is adversely affected. Spontaneity becomes almost non-existent.

The preschooler who regularly "visits" her parents room in the middle of the night may decide it is more comfy in their bed and decide to stay. This could pose discomfort to both parents, as most children are quite active in their sleep. In many cases, one parent retreats to the sofa. Conversely, some parents find that sleeping with their children gives the child security and they inevitably sleep better.

The family bed is a personal decision. Sleeping arrangements should be comfortable for all involved. Robyn's Nest welcomes your e-mailed comments, suggestions and experiences on the subject of the Family Bed.

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